Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
- Ask success coach DocLove about "The System" and about the not-so-subtle tell-tale signs.
- 1. Exhibit no genuine curiousity about you, your life or what's important to you.Talk about themselves.
- 2. Nname drops/brags about professional accomplishments. Convinced they'll be at the top soon.
- 3. Treats hired help as subhuman. Eating out, expects servers to run around slave-like for them.
- 4. Asks probing questions. Insists on knowing salary, assets, costs. Monitors your calls/emails.
- Narcissists exhibit deficiencies in empathy and utilize others to benefit hidden personal agendas.
- Psychologists Brad Bushman and Roy Baumeister explore Narcissists high agression when criticized.
- Emotionally vested in establishing their superiority, yet not convinced the have achieved it.
- Especially agressive toward poeple who give them a bad evaluation.
- Preoccupied with validating a grandoise self-image, criticism highly upsets yielding backlash to its source.
- Want to punish or defeat anyone who threatens their highly favorable views of themselves.
- Narcissism 101 suggests:
- Grandoise self-important image, exaggerated achievements/talents
- Fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, ideal love
- Believes special/unique and only understood by high status individuals/institiutions
- Requires excessive admiration
- Sense of entitlement, unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment and automatic compliance
- Interpersonally exploitive, takes advantage of others to achieve personal agenda/goals
- Lacks empathy, unwilling to recognize needs/feelings of others
- Envious of others, believes others envios of him/her
- Arrogant, haughty behaviors and/or attituded
- Jealousy and possessiveness
- Excessive need to feel special, adored, loved, appreciated, admired
- Rage attacks if you don't sufficiently meet this persons needs
- Controlling behaviors (how you spend your time, who you talk to, how you dress)
- Inflated self-esteem, braggin, "fishing" for compliments
- Dramatic, insecure behaviors
- Blaming YOU for behaviors or feelings (YOU made me do this or it's YOUR fault)
- Not taking responsibility for angry behavior, justifying angry outbursts
- "The world revolves around me" attitude, YOU need to cater to my ideas, interests, needs, actions
- Unwillingness to reflect on his/her own behaviors